If You Don’t Know Your Spiritual Personality How Can You Love Yourself

If You Don’t Know Your Spiritual Personality How Can You Love Yourself, this blog explores the idea that understanding your personality can be a powerful tool on the path to self-love. I’m also adding a spiritual perspective to help you dive deeper into who you really are. A beautiful soul here to experience love. It starts with loving yourself. When you love yourself, you accept yourself, which makes developing genuine, loving relationships, romantic or otherwise, easier to define. You know what you want and don’t want.

We live in a world that bombards us with illusionary ideas, of Cinderella-style love – an unattainable perfection of what love is supposed to be. Yet, what if this concept was flipped around? What if we were taught to first focus on an inner-guided journey of self-love? Wow, how different would life be? Your relationships? Your career? All of it!

But for many of us, self-love is tricky because we consistently look externally for the answers. We overlooked the connection between self-awareness, and knowing your spiritual personality type. Self-love means fully accepting who you really are, treating yourself with kindness and respect, and nurturing your growth and well-being. So I ask, if you don’t know yourself how can you love yourself?

We are not what happened to us, we are what we wish to become. – Carl Jung


101: Knowing Your Spiritual Personality and Loving Yourself 

Before delving into the relationship between spiritual personality typing and self-love, let’s briefly touch on the foundations of these concepts. Personality types, as defined by renowned psychologists like Carl Jung and later popularized by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), offer a framework for revealing how you gather information, make decisions, and your relationship with the world. A concept that has been used by organizations since the late 1940s. 

I’m introducing a new concept, spiritual personality typing. I believe we are spiritual beings having human experiences to evolve our souls. This rips the doors off of the patriarchal paradigm from the 1940s.  If you want to truly understand yourself, you must know the relationship between the spirit mind (high consciousness/soul) and your logical mind is essential to living a supernatural life. Supernatural? Yes, indeed.

As you train the logical mind, to move beyond external circumstances, to rely on the spark of Divinity within you, your life takes on attributes of Divine Intelligence. It’s why I think our Divinity within knows best and chooses our personality type to navigate its mission of evolution here on Earth. It expresses Divinely inspired action into our reality, for more joy, freedom, and happier romantic relationships! It’s the law of Divine attraction in action!

Self-love involves cultivating a positive and compassionate relationship with your holistic self. It’s beyond lip-gloss spirituality and moves into deep understanding and acceptance of your personality: one’s strengths, weaknesses, and unique qualities. 


The Links Between Your Spiritual Personality Type and Self-Love

Knowing your spiritual personality type is vital and the starting point for a journey to self-love. A few things to remember:


Understanding your spiritual personality type allows you to become deeply self-aware. It provides insights into your preferences, tendencies, and natural inclinations. A self-awareness that lays the foundation for recognizing and appreciating your individuality.

 – When you recognize you are a spiritual being having a human experience, you see personality typing from a radically different perspective. You approach people, and life situations with an open mind, realizing we are all one,  created from Divine Intelligence. And that all life experiences are here to teach us something about ourselves. Relationships, romantic and otherwise will be cherished as one of the best life experiences for self-discovery.

Accepting Differences

When you embrace the concept of personality typing, you immediately recognize that each type has shadow aspects and light aspects, differences within the persona itself.  Accepting your own differences helps you understand that everyone on the planet faces difficulties, allowing you to be more compassionate in your relationship with others.

– My debut book, Unpack Your Personality, explores acceptance of self and others by understanding your own dualistic cognitive functions and realizing that we all have opposing character traits. When we recognize that opposing traits are here for self-development, and bring about exponential self-understanding. We can then see the differences in others as a spiritual-looking-glass! 


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Navigating Relationships

Personality type preferences indicate how we interact with others. When you truly understand your preferences, releasing inherited beliefs, values, and another’s expectations you begin to connect to your authentic self, while also gaining an awareness of how your behavior impacts others.

–  This is big. So many of us bypass our authentic selves because of conditioning; from childhood, country culture, or trying to be somebody the world has told us to be. UGH. Many of us live by others’ expectations, so when we test we answer based on an illusionary persona. It’s one of the biggest reasons we mistype. You know if you are living from a mistype because you always feel off! It’s like hearing a sour note in music, you know because it doesn’t sound right. The same holds for personality mistyping.


Setting Realistic Goals

Recognizing your natural inclinations enables you to set realistic and achievable objectives to align with your true self, promoting a sense of harmony and self-worth.

– When you let go of the false belief that your personality is just a logical construct and recognize that it’s a sacred aspect of your spiritual self, you gain unlimited insights enabling you to navigate troubling times. You’ll stop living the way the world or others want you to live. Without spiritual direction, I don’t believe goal setting will ever get your true calling.


The world will ask you who you are, and if you don’t know, the world will tell you. – Carl Jung


If You Don’t Know Your Spiritual Personality Start Here

Now that we are beginning to understand the connection between personality typing and self-love, let’s explore some practical steps to incorporate this knowledge into our lives:

Take a Personality Test

Start by taking a reputable personality test, a few places that I find reputable: are Truity, Personality Club, and  Myers-Briggs®. These tests provide you with a framework to understand your personality type. 

Test Tip: Take a test when you are looking forward to it and are ready to explore yourself. I took a test when I was hurried and on a deadline; the results were ISTP, and I’m an ENTP. So wrong. Note: there is a 50% accuracy rate so please be aware and only take a test when you are excited to do so. I go into great detail in chapter four of my book about test taking.


Reflect on Results

Dive into your personality type. Reflect on your type’s preferences, strengths, and weaknesses. Consider how these aspects manifest themselves in your daily life.

Make sure you carefully consider every detail of your personality type. If it feels off, look for a sister trait; I’m an ENTP, so my sister type is an INTP – if you are an ESTJ your sister type is an ISTJ; an introvert or extrovert equivalent. Personality tests are forced response tests, meaning you are forced to choose an answer. Flow is always better than force, it’s why I don’t offer a test or a quiz on my site at this time. I’m trying to figure out a better way!


The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. Carl Jung


Now That You Know

Practice Self-Compassion

Armed with a deeper understanding of yourself, practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself, acknowledge your imperfections, and celebrate your strengths. This is what self-love looks like in life!

Again, this relates to seeing your differences and the differences of others as challenges that help you lean further into your true self. When you recognize this spiritual practice it’s easier to have compassion for yourself and others!


Set Authentic Goals 

Use your personality insights to encourage clear objectives that align with who you are. Avoid societal pressure to conform and focus on what truly brings you joy and fulfillment.

I believe the most effective way to set realistic goals is by knowing yourself from a holistic viewpoint; you as a spiritual being have a human experience. Meaning let your spirit mind guide your path, and that includes goal-setting. Put into practice the idea that your personality is a means of expressing your higher self. It navigates the physical world, relying on the loving and higher conscious self of the spirit mind, (the true self) which is the receiver of the Divine mind.


If You Don’t Know Your Spiritual Personality How Can You Love Yourself

I hope you enjoyed if don’t know your spiritual personality type how can you love yourself eye-opening. In a world that encourages conformity, understanding your spiritual personality type can be a powerful tool on the journey to self-love. By fostering self-awareness, accepting differences, and navigating relationships realistically, you pave the way for a more compassionate and loving relationship with yourself. So, the next time you find yourself on the path to self-discovery, consider the role your spiritual personality type plays in the beautiful and expansive journey of self-love.


Discover Spiritual Personality Typing ™️

Spiritual Personality Typing is radically different from traditional typology of the 1940s. The premise behind spiritual personality typing holds the belief that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. It is through life experiences that we further evolve our eternal soul, the everlasting, larger aspect of ourselves. Additionally, I believe our higher consciousness, the true self, chooses our personality type based on traits. Our true self uses these tools to express Divinely inspired action into our life’s purpose, passions, and potential.

Yes, this is a thought-provoking idea because it runs contrary to what the world believes. We believe we must rely solely on the logical mind, to power through life. And yet, when we experience the world, the things that bring us our greatest joy are often illogically driven… serendipitous and unexpected…  Our romantic journeys are no exception. We don’t fall in love based on logic we fall based on love, a Divine energy source. As we step away from logic, we can open up to windows of self-discovery,  embracing our fears and leaning into the power of higher consciousness. It is then that our relationship with ourselves and others will evolve.


Author Mission

Nina Zapala, author of Unpack Your Personality Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide, is a certified MBTI® practitioner who guides and mentors women everywhere to embrace a true self lifestyle. She introduces a groundbreaking personality paradigma fusion of personality typing and spiritual understandingborn from navigating her own life tsunami. In speaking with hundreds of other travelers she realized they too wandered life’s roads aimlessly. It dawned on her that we all need a roadmap to our true selves. She advocates for women everywhere to wholeheartedly embrace their unique, divine essence, irrespective of age, relationship status, or social standing. Her new understandings highlight the importance of women recognizing and pursuing their life’s true calling unapologetically, and unbound by the illusions of the world.


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