How to Use Personality Preferences to Build Trust: Part One is another step on the path to finding your true self.
What is trust, and why is it so important?
Trust is reliance or confidence—a firm belief in another’s character and an unseen value between two people or within a culture. Today, trust is being examined by millions of us. People around the world are questioning government agencies, medical systems, and religious communities.
So, who do you trust? The quick answer is yourself—and, of course, the spark of Divine consciousness within you.
I’m addressing this topic because I’ve been struggling with a trust issue. Interestingly, I received an answer from my inner spark of conscious intelligence, yet I still find myself questioning it.
Has this ever happened to you? You receive a message and then make up every excuse in the world for why it won’t work. Honestly, I think we all engage in this behavior, and I believe that trust in oneself is an escalating issue.
Struggle found me because I veered off the path of my true self, not living my truth. Truth doesn’t waver; it’s reliable, never changing, and can always be trusted. If you don’t know your truth, how can you trust? You haven’t defined your understanding of trust.
How Your Personality Preferences Play A Role in Building Trust
Definition of trust: A reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something or one in which confidence is placed Merriam Webster’s Dictionary
Using Your Personality Preferences to Build Trust: It Starts With Knowing Yourself?
I believe the only way you can trust yourself or others begins with knowing your true SELF. You’re confident and clear about your intended desires instead of relying on your conditioned self.
There is a Big Distinction Between the True SELF and the Conditioned Self:
- My definition of the true SELF is a fearless personality type, co-creating with your soul SELF allowing Divine Intelligence to express inspired actions through your physical reality, aka your personality. Ahh, the true SELF in action; it exudes joy, passion, and purpose.
- The conditioned self is the smaller self, less powerful, and highly engaged with the physical world. This self seeks external validations as a way to define itself. We are taught to ride the hamster wheel of life, get good grades, go to university, pick a career, find a soul mate, start a family, work hard, retire, and die — without questioning any of it.
If you rely on the external world to build trust, who are you putting your trust in? An institution, a system, or an industry. The time is now to begin questioning who you believe is trustworthy. My intention is that after you read this post, you’ll start to realize that trusting yourself is the way to the true SELF.
And please, don’t blame yourself or feel guilty that you’ve trusted an untrustworthy system. We’ve all been led to believe otherwise.
Trust in yourself. Your perceptions are often far more accurate than you are willing to believe. Claudia Black, Australian Actor
Use Your Personality Preferences to Build Trust
Every personality is assigned four preferences according to Myers-Briggs©️, which together create one of the 16 personality types. Each preference indicates certain behaviors and characteristics. In this discussion, I am focusing on the decision-making traits of feeling and thinking.
I believe that trusting yourself often results from many small decisions accumulating positive outcomes over time. Yes, of course, we encounter bumps along the road. Fear and ego are always present, ready to teach us life lessons. Hopefully, we learn from these lessons, dust ourselves off, start making new decisions, and take a new course of action.
Are you familiar with your decision-making traits? Have you explored how these traits influence your life? If not, you’re not alone. Many people take their personality type for granted, and many more don’t even know what their type is!
I’m not preaching; I’m just saying that your personality type is foundational to everything you do in life. Without this knowledge, trusting yourself can become an issue. What often happens is that we fall prey to conditioned beliefs. When I look out into the world and see how unhappy many of us are, I’d say this programmed way isn’t working.
If you don’t understand your judging traits, trusting yourself becomes elusive. —Nina Zapala, author & founder of Spiritual Personality Typing
Your Judging Traits Are a Gateway to Trusting Yourself
Introverted Feeling (Fi)
Personality types with the (Fi) trait tend to be highly invested in the well-being of a select few, often without attachment to the emotional harmony of a group. This trait helps define your authenticity, self-direction, self-understanding, and individuality, informing your views.
This preference is inward in nature and focuses on personal uniqueness. A trust trigger may arise when you are prompted to go against a value that challenges your sense of authenticity.
Triggers can occur in situations where you perceive someone as superficial or insincere. While these judgments may be accurate, evaluating information solely from your perspective can lead to a narrow viewpoint, disregarding the individuality of others and contradicting your core beliefs. This can create a struggle with trust.
Breathwork may be very useful in these situations. It can provide you with the time-out you need when making a decision. If you require more time, don’t hesitate to ask for it.
Extroverted Feeling (Fe)
The innate gift of (Fe) is the ability to read and restore another’s emotional state, facilitating harmony and mutual understanding with others so everyone is on the same emotional page.
This trait is outward in nature and often does not encourage introspection. As a result, you may rarely take time to examine your own feelings, leading to self-sacrifice.
A trust trigger can arise when you receive a message urging you to take action for yourself, which may feel counterintuitive since your passion lies in acting for the well-being of others.
Engaging in a spiritual practice of reflection, journaling, and meditation can be beneficial in helping you realize that it’s okay to put yourself first every once in a while.
Trust starts with truth and ends with truth.” Dr. Santosh Kalwar, Author Writer Poet
Introverted Thinking (Ti)
A (Ti) judging function is inward-facing. It helps you rationalize and understand conceptual ideas to redefine personal strategies and theories. A trait that is skeptical, self-regulating, and optimizing craving independence and autonomy.
In my example, example, I received a message to take a specific action. A trust trigger arose as I began fearing the loss of my autonomy — a conditioned response. Another message revealed if I can’t trust an answer from, Divinely Intelligence how can I trust anything in life, myself included?
A spiritual practice that I use daily is meditative walking and spiritual readings to help me get out of my head and align with the true SELF.
Extroverted Thinking (Te)
A personality with a (Te) function is highly logical—a numbers wizard who uses rationality to make systems efficient. This trait is definitely associated with a left-brained individual.
Extroverted thinking (Te) is an outward trait that excels at standardizing and optimizing systems and technology. This decision-making approach relies on qualifying systems by applying research and facts to gain understanding. Trust triggers naturally arise when research, facts, and numbers are removed from the decision-making process, making it difficult to trust yourself in these situations.
Individuals with this trait will find a stillness practice especially useful. You’ll need to go within to review your inner world of research. Consider this question: Will you draw upon information from your storehouse of knowledge, or will you allow another to contribute to your existing body of research? None of us live in a world comprised solely of our own doings; it’s a reminder to trust yourself in this understanding.
You can benefit significantly from reflecting on others’ contributions. Before deeming their input unworthy, gather with others for discussion—a beautiful way to expand your (Te) trait.
Can You Now Better Understand How Personality Preferences Help You Build Trust?
Recap: How to Use Your Personality Preferences to Build Trust
– What is trust, and who do you trust?
– Knowing your judging preferences is the top way to build trust in yourself,
– Trust begins by knowing yourself and understanding the difference between the true SELF and the conditioned self,
– A review of each judging trait; Si, Se, Ti, and Te, and how each one can cause trust triggers
Check back next week to read How to Build Trust In Seasons of Change: Part Two
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