How To Remove Layers Of False Beliefs From Your Persona?

How to Remove the Layers of False Beliefs from Your Persona?

Over time, we change. We grow. We outgrow certain ideas and ways of being.
But instead of letting go of what no longer serves us, we often add more — more roles, more responsibilities, more beliefs, more “shoulds.”

Without realizing it, we’re stacking new layers on top of the old, outdated ones. The result?
A heavy, crowded identity that doesn’t match the person we’re becoming.
And it’s exhausting.

It’s the reason so many founders don’t resonate with their own brands.
Your stuck in old school paradigms, trying to move forward. It’s like trying to run in quicksand.

True authenticity isn’t about adding more.
It’s about removing what’s no longer true for you.

 

Authenticity isn’t about becoming more — it’s about unbecoming…shedding what’s no longer true.

How My Own Layers Of False Beliefs Emerged

Years ago, I was standing on stage, accepting one of the most prestigious awards in hospitality.
From the outside, I had “made it.”
From the inside, something felt very wrong. My stomach dropped. My heart wasn’t happy. A quiet, undeniable thought came through from my soul: Is this what you really want?

That moment marked the beginning of my removal process — shedding my fears, false beliefs, and societal “shoulds” that had been running my life for decades.

I had chased awards, status, and possessions believing they would prove my worth. But achievement didn’t create the wholeness I was seeking. Real power — lasting, soul-intuitive power — only came when I started aligning with my true Self.

Why Adding More Isn’t The Answer

We live in a culture that tells us to keep chasing the next thing.
→ More goals. More achievements. More titles. 

But if we keep introducing more without removing the false beliefs that no longer fit, we end up creating a life that feels heavy, disconnected, and inauthentic.

Old beliefs like:

• “I must prove my worth.”

• “If I achieve this, I’ll finally feel enough.”

• “When I meet my performance KPIs I’ll leave my mark.”

…are illusions in disguise. They lead us to build a life that looks right on the outside but feels empty on the inside.

The truth is: Your worth isn’t something you earn — it’s something you remember.

You can’t step into your becoming if you’re still dressed in yesterday’s beliefs.

How To Remove Layers of False Beliefs from Your Persona

Before we dig into the personality types, let’s remember — you are not just your personality type.
You are a multi-dimensional being:

• A physical self, rooted in the material world.

• An emotional, heart-centered self.

• A logical, brain-oriented self.

• And—most importantly—a spiritual being having a human experience.

This is why I teach Spiritual Personality Typing — because years of research into Jung–Myers–Briggs, ancient wisdom traditions, and the seismic lessons of my own “7-year life tsunami” have shown me this:
Your higher-conscious soul self speaks through your personality traits. Those traits—when healthy—are not random. They are tools for your soul’s evolution here on Earth.

So take what resonates, leave the rest, and let’s explore each group and how to gently peel away the false beliefs that may be keeping the real you under wraps.

Sensing–Perceiving Personalities

(ESTP, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP)

For you, the world is one big sketchpad — tactile, flavorful, vibrant. You thrive in the here-and-now, using heightened senses to immerse yourself in experiences. You love doing — creating with your hands, seeking adventure, savoring life’s textures, flavors, and colors.

The False Belief to Release: That more stimulation always equals more happiness.
Your joy doesn’t come from rapidly moving to the next event or thrill; it’s amplified when you slow down enough to fully taste the moment you’re already in.

Spiritual Shift: Gratitude for what is right here not only calms the nervous system, it taps your soul into a deep well of clarity. Pleasure at 100% becomes presence. And presence is where your inner wisdom speaks.

Sensing–Judging Personalities

(ESTJ, ISTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ)

Duty. Responsibility. Reliability. They’re not just words to you—they’re part of your DNA. You take pride in being counted on, and you value order and tradition. Sometimes you even shoulder responsibilities that were never meant to be yours.

The False Belief to Release: That if something needs doing, you must be the one to do it.
Yes, follow-through is part of your beauty, but not every duty is sacred. Some are distractions disguised as obligation.

Spiritual Shift: When you focus only on what truly matters to you, clarity blooms. You free yourself from carrying others’ abandoned duties. The real gift? More breathing room for joy, connection, and the people you love most.

Intuitive–Feeling Personalities

(ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP)

For you, the unseen is as real as the seen. You sense possibilities in every conversation, beauty in what could be, and meaning in the yet-to-unfold. Harmony is a deep need—and sometimes, you work too hard to maintain it.

The False Belief to Release: That your role is to keep everyone happy.
Your compassion is luminous, but over-pleasing can keep others from walking their own evolutionary path.

Spiritual Shift: Even deeply spiritual beings are called to be warriors at times. Conflict isn’t always a destroyer—it’s also an awakener. If you let it, challenge can be the threshold into a richer, deeper truth for everyone involved.

Intuitive–Thinking Personalities

(ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP)

You are the architect of ideas—drawn to big concepts, abstract systems, and the elegant logic that explains how things work. Visionary, independent, and often skeptical, you believe nearly any obstacle can be out-thought or out-willed.

The False Belief to Release: That sheer willpower and intellect can always solve the problem.
Your mind is brilliant, but when logic becomes a narrow tunnel, even genius can run into a wall.

Spiritual Shift: There is power in the collective we. By softening your grip on rigorous independence and welcoming collaboration, your ideas are potentiated by the genius of the group. The tapestry of elevated thought is richer when woven together.

Your worth isn’t something to achieve — it’s something to remember.

A Closing Perspective for All Types

Removing false beliefs isn’t about abandoning who you are — it’s about realigning your traits so they serve your soul’s journey instead of your fears.
When you approach your personality this way, it becomes less of a label and more of a sacred tool for living your truth. A remembering of your true self.

The more you release what’s not truly yours, the lighter, clearer, and braver you become — and that’s when your highest potential, the characteristically authentic YOU, emerges.

5 Journal Exercises To Begin The Removal Process

If you want to shed the weight of outdated identities — untruths, false beliefs — and step onto the path of becoming unapologetic, unlimited, and unbounded by what was, these simple journaling exercises can get you started:

1. List your current roles.
Example: mother, entrepreneur, friend, partner, community leader…

2. For each role, ask:
“How am I hoping to serve — from me, you, to the collective we? Be honest. Do you want to serve from love, as a guide to teach or uplift? Or are you still trapped in the false ideas of gaining: security, approval, or control?”

3. Go deeper and ask:
“Why do I want this? Does this belief support my becoming and who I am now, or is it leftover from an earlier version of me?”

4. Circle the outdated ones.
These are the layers you can begin to let go.

5. Ask your True Self:
“If I let go of just one of these outdated roles or beliefs, what space would open in my life — and what would I fill it with?” Be still and listen for the answer — it may come as a word, an image, or a deep feeling. This is your soul showing you the next step in your becoming.

This is not about abandoning responsibility — it’s about releasing the mental and emotional identities you’ve outgrown, so you can move forward lighter and more aligned. 

When you stop collecting roles that don’t fit, you make room for the life that does.

Living Your Becoming

As we grow, we’re meant to evolve beyond outdated roles and self-concepts.
Letting go doesn’t mean losing yourself. It means creating space for your next, truer version to emerge.

When you release what’s no longer authentic:

• Your clarity sharpens.

• Your confidence expands.

• Your energy lifts.

You don’t need to change yourself.
You simply need to return to yourself.

Peace is your spirit’s way of whispering: you’re in alignment now.

A Final Word

Life will always invite you to add more.
But before you say yes, ask yourself:
“Am I building on truth, or am I layering over what needs to be released?”

Your becoming isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s a peaceful revealing of who you’ve been all along.

Travel A Tonic for Self-Discovery

Can you see why I staunchly believe that travel is a tonic for the soul? Travel offers a real-time opportunity to observe your personality type in action. It’s an enriching environment—a living classroom for self-discovery—that exposes you to diverse experiences. This encourages self-reflection, fosters personal growth, and provides countless opportunities to step outside your comfort zone.

This post offers a sneak peek into my book, Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide. It’s part memoir (my story of self-discovery through travel), part introduction to Spiritual Personality Typing℠—a reimagining of Myers-Briggs (MBTI) through the lens of spiritual alignment—and part personalized travel guidebook. The idea is that all of these roads lead to self-discovery.

Please know that I curate these posts to be both meaningful and educational, designed to help you navigate the needs of your sacred personality type on the road, in business, and in life. If you’re interested in exploring your unique travel personality type, feel free to contact me me for a one-on-one travel session.

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If this speaks to you even a little bit, check out my podcast interview Reinvention Rebels with host Wendy Battles
🎧  Reinvention at 66: Nina Zapala’s Journey to Embrace Imperfection and Ignite Her Purpose
👉 Listen here.

Thank you, Wendy, for believing in my mission — even before I fully believed in it myself. 🩵

Additional Resources:

👀  For additional learning watch more on my YouTube Channel. Click here

🔖How to Embrace the Soul Self in Business: click here for the link.

🔖 How To Be True To Yourself: read it here.

📚 Or grab a copy of my debut book: Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide

Who Is Nina Zapala?

Hey, I’m Nina Zapala—creator of Spiritual Personality Typing℠, a new way to connect your mind and spirit so you can actually show up as your real self. My mission? Plant seeds for a fresh kind of thinking—where self-expression isn’t just allowed, it’s unstoppable.

I’m also the mind behind the (un)Brand: a soul-first, zero-cookie-cutter approach for founders who are done with branding clichés and performance games. No more approval-chasing. No more shrinking to fit in. The (un)Brand helps you show up fully—characteristically authentic, unapologetic, and 100% you.

With decades in branding, community, and cause marketing (and 300+ articles to prove it), I help women take back their identity and purpose. My book, Unpack Your Personality Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide., is your invite to trust your gut and journey inward.

Let’s be real—someone rocks blue hair or pitches a bold idea, and most people roll their eyes or back away. My work? Burns old scripts. Instead we light up what makes you exquisitely different.

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