How to Know What Your Heart Wants to Live Your Best Life Ever
I still remember the night I stood on stage in New York City, the lights glaring, the applause rising, and a platinum hospitality award being placed in my hands. It was supposed to be one of those “peak success moments” — the kind you imagine will change everything. On paper, my career looked perfect. Milestones achieved. Goals met. Recognition from my industry.
And yet, as the hoopla of the ceremony faded and I found myself alone in the quiet afterward, I felt something unexpected: emptiness. Not joy. Not fulfillment. Just a restless whisper rising from within, asking me a question I couldn’t ignore: Is this really it?
That whisper is often what we hear at life’s turning points. For some, it comes in our 40s when midlife responsibilities weigh heavy. For others, it arrives in our 60s, when the question of legacy rises. No matter when it comes, there’s one truth: the heart doesn’t ask us to keep climbing ladders—it asks us to awaken.
Midlife Isn’t Decline, It’s Awakening
Cultural slogans insist that “60 is the new 40,” but the mirror and our energy often tell a different story. Without a spiritual anchor, it’s easy to slip into the trap of endlessly chasing youth. But what if midlife isn’t about resisting age at all?
What if it’s about renewal? A chance to shift focus from achievement to authenticity, from speed to meaning, from doing what’s expected to doing what’s true. When we reframe aging as an invitation rather than a decline, the second half of life becomes a canvas for purpose, joy, and deepened self-expression.
The Trap of Overthinking and Disconnection
Overthinking is one of the biggest distractions pulling us away from our heart’s truth, the whispers of our soul. The constant churn of “what ifs” and “what’s next” leaves us anxious and burned out. Yet, the heart—the deeper wisdom within—always nudges us when it’s time to shift. One way to reconnect is through play. Yes, childlike play. Play breaks the mental loop and brings us back to joy, flow, and presence—reminding us of who we are underneath the noise.
Embracing Emotions as Teachers
It may seem easier to ignore doubt, fear, or grief, but they are actually signals. Your soul wants you to face them, not to punish you, but to liberate you. The more we embrace our emotions with honesty, the more clarity we gain about what truly matters. Midlife isn’t a crisis—it’s an awakening.
Tools to Reconnect With Your Heart
Spiritual Personality Typing: A modern, mystical approach to uncovering your deeper blueprint. Unlike rigid, outdated models, this tool reveals pathways of meaning, wisdom, and soul-alignment.
Intuition Practices: Stillness, silence, or short journaling exercises help surface insights that are usually drowned out by daily life. Listening to your intuition is like tuning in to your heart center—the place where purpose and joy originate.
Play as Presence: Rediscover curiosity and creativity. Play reintroduces us to presence, where the whispers of the heart are easiest to hear.
Miss Alice Finds Her New Beginning At 80 And Lives Her Best Life
Alice Moseley didn’t discover her best life in her 20s—or even her 50s. It arrived at 80. A lifelong schoolteacher, she turned to painting while caring for her mother and quickly recognized it as her true calling. Her first 40 pieces sold in a single day at a flea market, and from then on, she lived as a full-time folk artist.
Her artworks—both humorous and heart-filled—earned her acclaim and joy well into her 90s. Alice called those final decades her happiest, proving that fulfillment has nothing to do with age and everything to do with answering the heart’s call.
Audacious Aging: Rewriting the Narrative
Alice’s story reminds us that aging isn’t something to resist—it’s something to embrace with audacity. Your 50s, 60s, and beyond aren’t endings; they’re invitations to create, contribute, and experience deeper joy. When we redefine midlife as a rebirth instead of a decline, we free ourselves from society’s stale definitions of success.
What Does Your Heart Want?
The heart always asks us to engage with life fully—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Living your best life isn’t reserved for a younger version of you; it’s for the version of you who dares to awaken now. The whispers of your soul are here to guide you toward your unique imprint—one that inspires others through quiet courage and authenticity.
Intuition Knows What the Heart Wants
Intuition lives in silence and stillness—the state of flow where you feel fully present and engaged. In those quiet moments, the unconscious becomes conscious, offering fresh insights, unexpected ideas, and deeper self-understanding. Because intuition is rooted in your heart center, its whispers reveal who you are meant to be and how you are meant to contribute. When you begin to listen, your passion, purpose, and potential come alive, aligning you with what truly matters—your values, your joy, and the sparks that set your heart on fire.
Start small with a simple journal practice:
Take 5–10 minutes to notice…
The subtle sounds around you
The natural rhythm of your breath
The sensations of your body at rest
One small detail you usually overlook
A feeling of peaceful presence rising within you
Journaling Tip: Write without judgment. Let your words move as easily as a summer breeze. Don’t force meaning—simply capture the essence of what you notice in stillness.
What Your Heart Wants
I hope this post opened you up to new perspectives and also helped you see that being happy in life happens when you fully engage yourself (the physical and nonphysical aspects of self) in all that life offers. We often wonder how can someone in their 80’s being living their best life? Isn’t that reserved for a younger person?
No. It’s reserved for people who want to do the work, confront their fears and leave mediocrity behind. For those who want to discover their unique, blueprint.. unique soul expression; what truly matters. This is the imprint that is meant to be left upon the planet in a soft whisper, not a load roar. It’s your way to inspire others and give them permission to to do the same.
You become the wayshower. The light in the storm. Are you ready
An Invitation
Does this blog stir something within you? Maybe it feels a little unsettling to imagine beginning again at 50, 60—or even 80. But this is good news. That discomfort is often the very nudge your soul uses to wake you up. It’s time to shake loose the old beliefs—the “I can’t,” “I’m not enough,” and “I’m too old”—that keep you from living a vibrant second act.
I’d love to help you navigate this season of awakening through my work in Spiritual Personality Typing. This framework blends traditional psychology with Divine intelligence to help you uncover the fears, remember your gifts, and help you listen to your soul-song to bring forth your special light into the world.
If your heart nudges as you read this, start small:
Explore my free resources; the blog, YouTube, my debut book: Unpack Your Personality designed to help you remember the totality of your personality type that is aligned with Divine Intelligence.
When you’re ready, consider mentoring sessions where we map your traits—not just the egoic patterns, but the spiritual threads that reveal your deeper purpose. Click here to schedule a session.
And when the time is right, join me for a 1/2 day Walk’n’Talks. Where together we begin to get to the bottom of what’s holding you back, and explore new insights to help you move forward.
It’s never too late. Your gifts—no matter how long they’ve been tucked away—can still change your world, and inspire generations to come.
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It’s always my intention to encourage you and plant seeds to help you think differently. To tap into the unique aspects of your true self through spiritual personality type. By doing so, we can collectively raise the vibration of the planet. If you know someone—a friend, co-worker, or family member—who is struggling with self-understanding or seeking their true self, please share this post with them. You never know who might need this message today.
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Travel A Tonic for Self-Discovery
In the midst of my tsunami, I birthed a new vision of travel: intentional journeys guided not by reviews or trends but by soul itself. My book, Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide, introduces an evolutionary way of traveling — experiential, meaningful, beyond bucketlists. You discover not just the destination, but the deeper destination within yourself. Travel is no longer an escape. It’s expansion.
My debut book is part memoir (my story of self-discovery through travel), an introduction to Spiritual Personality Typing℠—(an evolutionary personality paradigm a reimagining of Myers-Briggs) through the lens of spiritual alignment—and a personalized travel guidebook… all these roads lead to self-discovery.
If you’re interested in exploring your unique travel personality type, feel free to contact me me for a one-on-one travel session.
Dive Deeper? I Got You
If this speaks to you even a little bit, check out my podcast interview Reinvention Rebels with host Wendy Battles
🎧 Reinvention at 66: Nina Zapala’s Journey to Embrace Imperfection and Ignite Her Purpose
👉 Listen here.
Thank you, Wendy, for believing in my mission — even before I fully believed in it myself. 🩵
Additional Resources:
👀 Learn more on topic on my YouTube Channel. Watch it here here.
🔖 Trust Your Intuition No Matter Your Age and Inspire Others: read it here .
🔖 The Hidden Spiritual Personality Traits That Unlock Your New Beginning: read it here.
📚 Or grab a copy of my debut book: Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide
A Time For New Beginnings
Are you ready to embark on the road less traveled and join the rare 10% who truly know themselves? If you’re seeking more, I offer bespoke one-on-one sessions designed to help you discover yourself from the inside out. This is pure self-awareness—an opportunity to connect with your authentic self. A time for new beginnings.
Together, we’ll shine a light on self-sabotaging behaviors and break negative cycles. We’ll also explore what brings you the greatest joy, both in daily life and on your travels.
Ready to start your journey? Let’s connect and uncover the unique path meant just for you. Click here to schedule a 1:1 clarity call.
About Spiritual Personality Typing
My goal is to shift perspectives around MBTI® personality typing—to break free from stereotypes and oversimplifications. Remember, your personality type is sacred. Your persona is just a mask.
It’s my intention that you begin to see your archetype as a sacred tool—an expression of your true self.
Of course, good things in life come to those who do the work. Take responsibility and make personality typing, infused with spiritual understanding, a daily practice. You’ll soon realize that your rational self and your soul self rely on each other to ignite a soulful meaningful life. When you fully embrace this concept, a profound awakening occurs. It moves you closer to your truth, liberating you from a purposeless existence.
You’ll be ready for any occasion, situation, or event—whether it’s travel, relationships, career, passion, or purpose. Ahh, living a meaningful life—isn’t that what we all desire?
Who Is Nina Zapala?
I published a book and founded Spiritual Personality Typing℠ during what I call my midlife tsunami — a season that shook every illusion and surfaced my deepest truths. Out of loss and upheaval, I awakened to what truly matters: the union of psychology and spirituality, the marriage between soul and self, the path to becoming characteristically authentic.
Old-school typology only tells half the story. Without soul, life becomes lifeless; we bow to ego, chasing material illusions. But with Spiritual Personality Typing, you remember who you truly are, why you came here, and how you are meant to serve. For women 60+, this is not about ‘anti-aging.’ It is about full-on authentic aging — walking courageously, unapologetically yourself, wildly free, while bringing forth your sacred legacy
Here’s what I now know: “Every wrinkle holds a story, every scar a sacred map. When we deny our authentic self, our soul withers; when we embrace her, we bloom into timelessness; unapologetic, authentic.
Photo Credit: Alice Moseley Museum
Updated: 9.2025
