The question of how to know what your heart wants to live your best life often arises as we approach a midpoint in our lives. Why? I believe it’s because we’ve lived long enough to understand and solidify our core beliefs; recognizing what truly matters in life. While I mention midlife, recent statistics suggest this self-reflection is occurring earlier. Women in their early 40s are increasingly recognizing that societal norms, while providing structure, don’t necessarily address what’s truly important: assessing one’s potential, purpose, and passion.
Society Provides Structure, But Does It Know What the Heart Wants?
What if you’ve fulfilled society’s milestones? The corner office, the house, all the material possessions, marriage, kids—and still feel like something is missing? Or what if you feel like a failure because you can never reach these milestones, as the metrics keep shifting? I can relate. I had a very successful, award-winning career in travel. What I’ve learned is that even when you reach the proverbial mountaintop, without acknowledging the desires of your soul, (what fulfills you … your purpose) you may still be living a life of discontentment. We’ve got all the stuff, but lose sight of what truly matters. A phenomenon some call “existential frustration.”
Existential Frustration: Not Letting The Heart Lead You to What It Wants
This feeling is your wise inner guide—the higher conscious self, soul, Holy Spirit, or Divine spark within—letting you know it’s time for a course correction in life. The heart often yearns for:
- Fulfillment: note this is the key to discovering purpose
- Making a difference
- Serving others
When these desires are unfulfilled, you may experience a sense of emptiness or dissatisfaction, even amid outward success. Keep on reading for practical guidance on aligning your life with your heart’s true desires.
Embrace Where You Are Right Now
It may seem counterintuitive, but if you don’t face your doubts, fears, and unhealthy emotions, your soul will lead you down a challenging path. It wants you to confront what’s holding you back so you can better understand your emotional intelligence. Below are a few tools to help you get in touch with what the heart wants.
Spiritual Personality Typing: Helps You Know What the Heart Wants
Spiritual personality typing is a refined personality paradigm, a tool that I used to navigate my life’s tsunami. It helps you answer life’s deepest questions; why am I here; how did I get, is this all there is?
This new approach It helped me move beyond the stereotypical and rigid dynamics of 1940s typology. Its modern and mystical and reveals the unconventional truth about old-school typology. An ideology which often presents a soulless path lacking in Divine direction, meaning, purpose, wisdom, and enlightened action. I believe this is why so many people are lost, confused, and overwhelmed. The seek externally and become overwhelmed by the chaos, fear, and divisive nature of our modern times.
Intuition: An Inner Wisdom That Knows What the Heart Wants
Intuition is found in silence and stillness—the state of flow when fully engaged. It allows the unconscious aspect of yourself to become conscious, bringing wonderful new insights, ideas, and self-understanding. Your intuition is tethered to your heart center, and if you listen to the whispers it brings during times of stillness, it will unveil who you are meant to be and how you are meant to contribute. This brings to life your passion, purpose, and potential—connecting you fully to your core values, what brings you joy, sets your heart on fire, or truly excites you. Start small. Here’s a journal exercise to get you started:
Take 5-10 minutes to start and witness:
- The subtle sounds around you
- Your breath’s natural rhythm
- The sensation of your body at rest
- One small detail you typically overlook
- A feeling of peaceful presence
Journaling Tip: Write without judgment. Let your words flow like a gentle summer’s breeze. Capture the essence of quiet without forcing meaning.
Intention
Allow this prompt to be a soft invitation to inner calm. Don’t analyze—simply observe and record your experience of stillness.Duration: 5-10 minutes of uninterrupted writing
Miss Alice Figured Out What The Heart Wanted And Lived Her Best Life Ever at 80
Alice Latimer Moseley (1909–2004), known colloquially as Miss Alice, was born in Birmingham, Alabama. She was an eighth-grade teacher for 30 years until her mother became afflicted with Alzheimer’s. During this time, without the restrictions of an institutionalized career, she began to explore her innate creativity. She started to paint. It was an obvious heart-centered passion. She quickly painted her first 40 paintings and sold all of them at a flea market in Nashville, Tennessee. That was the day Alice Moseley became a professional folk artist.
As The Old Paradigm Shifted, A New One Emerged
Early on, Moseley was recognized as an idyllic folk artist by Jules Pfeiffer in Folk Art Finder. “Idyllic folk art” is described as showing not only what the artist saw but what he or she wanted to see. Moseley began to receive acclaim and had a successful career. After the death of her husband, she moved to Bay St. Louis, Mississippi, in 1989, when she was 80 years old. She described her years in Bay St. Louis as the happiest and most successful of her life—at 80 years of age. I just love this.
Audacious Aging
Today, Moseley’s paintings are historic and often comedic as they depict Southern life in the country. Some of her more popular titles are: “Life Is So Daily,” “The House Is Blue But the Old Lady Ain’t,” and “Labor Versus Management,” which shows a farmer throwing his hat down on the ground in anger while his mule sits on his hindquarters with a little smile on his face. Alice Moseley painted until her death in July 2004, at the age of 94.Her son Tim Moseley founded the Alice Moseley Folk Art and Antique Museum after Hurricane Katrina in 2006, and it has since been relocated from the blue house to the historic Bay St. Louis train depot. Visitors to Bay St. Louis rave about the museum and the entertaining and informative tours given by docents. The museum is free and is open Monday through Saturday from 10 AM to 4 PM.
How to Know What Your Heart Wants to Live Your Best Life Ever
I hope this post opened you up to new perspectives and also helped you see that being happy in life happens when you fully engage yourself (the physical and nonphysical aspects of self) in all that life offers. We often wonder how can someone in their 80’s being living their best life? Isn’t that reserved for a younger person?
No. It’s reserved for people who want to do the work, confront their fears and leave mediocrity behind. For those who want to discover their unique, blueprint.. unique soul expression; what truly matters. This is the imprint that is meant to be left upon the planet in a soft whisper, not a load roar. It’s your way to inspire others and give them permission to to do the same.
You become the wayshower. The light in the storm. Are you ready
Clarity Session
You know what they say: “necessity is the mother of invention — reinvention.” After years on the psychiatrist’s couch, countless masterclasses, and working with various coaches, I still felt like something was off. I was struggling—lost without a voice, a vision, and without a clear solution in sight.
Then came my life tsunami. It was through embracing spirit-driven teachings and the psychological tools of Dr. Nix, Ph.D., that I uncovered my true calling: Spiritual Personality Typing (SPT). This emerging typology is a roadmap to your authentic self, bridging your soul (higher consciousness) with your personality (the soul in action). It’s perfect for “adacious agers” and “business outliers” alike who desire to successfully weather these transformative times.
I offer bespoke 1:1 clarity sessions that just may be what you need to stop merely living your life and start creating the life of your dreams!”
Working with Nina helped me remove the blind spots that were holding me back”, Judith Wilms, TedX, Author. A bespoke clarity session maybe just what you need to stop living your life and instead create the life of your dreams!
Book: Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide
New here? Wanna know your travel personality typing? My debut book, Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide, is your gateway to discovering yourself through travel. Inside, you’ll uncover how the joys of travel provide the perfect playground for self-awareness, complete with reflective questions that guide you on your journey. Explore top destinations for adventure, relaxation, and inspiration, along with practical tips for leveraging your personality preferences to create more fulfilling getaways. By harmonizing the insights of your personality with your inner guide (your higher self), you can elevate your travel experiences, embracing both worldly wonders and divine transcendence.
For me, travel has become a powerful tool on my self-discovery journey, regardless if I’m exploring distant lands or my own backyard. Ready to embark on this journey?
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About
Nina Zapala is the founder of the Spiritual Personality Typing. An emerging and mystical approach to personality typing, ideally suited for these evolving times. By integrating the soul’s role into personality typing, she offers women (age is never a requirement) with a personalized roadmap to fully embody their true selves. This spiritual typology unveils a pioneering perspective, helping women not only understand and embrace their outer persona, but also connect with their deeper essence—identifying their soul’s true direction in life. It’s a profound shift that empowers women to align with their highest potential and live with meaning, purpose, gratitude, and fulfillment. This isn’t just insight; it’s a life-changing journey
