, Being obsessively external can leave you powerless, taking you on life detours that lead to painful outcomes, major life tsunamis, and unhappiness. Believe me, I know. It’s taken me more than ten years to figure this out. I’ve been a seeker and practiced spiritual exercises for decades. I always thought of myself as a person on a path. What I realized during my ten-year life tsunami is that I hadn’t fully committed. I now recognize that my spiritual practice goes way beyond journaling, meditation, and reading. One aspect of my spiritual practice is centered around the experience of openheartedness, speaking my truth as a way of uncovering and discovering who I am, to connect deeply to my soul self; the wise spirit mind within.
“The way is not in the sky. The was is in the heart,”– Bhagavad Gita
What I kept on reaching for were external cues to give me the answers. I wasn’t being present, I was performing. Focused on what others wanted and often unconnected to my essence, the spirit mind that knows, that guides, and seeks opportunities to create the life of my dreams. Unaware of this damaging habit, I’d ask and get answers directly from my ego-conditioned self, which always relies on the materialistic, physical way of being. Which is always more fear-based; competing, not enough, hustle, do more, have more…. It’s the way of the ego, keeping us where we are. It’s essence is control and security. While this worked for a while, it never sustained me. Egoic patterns would keep me in stuck. So I’d go back seeking answers from the external with similar outcomes. The definition of insanity!
❤️🩹 Healing from Within
It wasn’t until I started healing my wounds and realizing how powerful they were in controlling my life choices. As I began to uncondition myself things slowly shifted. Trust me, this isn’t an easy path, but my my higher self was insistent. It had tried to be gentle with me, but I kept getting lost and missing the detour signs. Ten years ago, I experienced a series a raging life tsunami, divorce, death, health issues, job loss, bankruptcy, moving…
I was in excruciating pain, mentally and physically. I woke up one day, and my entire life had changed from luxury living to struggling to keep myself and my son from being homeless. Yet what I thought was luxury living came with a hefty price tag. I had to face the fact that I wasn’t true to myself. Living my truth!
What I thought defined me, the external things in life; watches, jewelry, clothes, car, the relationship (even though I was pretending everything was perfect when it wasn’t) ⏤ started to leave my life slowly. The material gradually gave way to inner peace of stillness, self-reflection, and looking inward to see what really mattered. This journey to the soul self is where the power of life stems from, and this is when my life changed.
Carl Jung: We Don’t Heal, We Let Go
🧭 My Journey
Trust me when I tell you, my life was traumatic. Thank GOD, I had fabulous friends and family members who patiently let me go through the drama of blaming. I hadn’t yet taken responsibility. Until one day, two years into my ten-year tsunami, I experienced excruciating back pain. It’s no wonder. My body was reeling from the stress and anxiety over the job loss, having to sell my home, a cancer scare, and more. These terrifying but necessary life challenges were just the tip of the iceberg on the journey to self. My soul was saying, “Nina, stop forcing, trying, performing, and this businesses. these are not the way. “Be still in the presence and peace of your inner self.“
I fought this hard as I’m a natural doer;(ENTP). A dog with a bone. You know the type we never sit down! I discovered during many years of reflection that I used busy as a way to escape. A inherited belief, as this is what my Mom prized in me. She said, “If you were busy, you were accomplishing something.” Accomplishing what? Busy for the sake of busy is chaotic. It was in my childhood and it was in adulthood. I figured out busy was a conditioned response. A false sense of self. It’s like driving in the UK if you’re from the US: it’s the opposite of what you know to be true to you. Awkward. Frustrating. And illogical.
🪫 What I Now Know About Being Obsessively External: It’s Powerless
I learned the Mercedes, Chanel, and. Louis Vuitton didn’t give me the power to heal my wounded self … they were a mask to hide my childhood wounds that drove me to become more obsessive, which made me feel even more powerless. Imposter syndrome!
My whys?
Because I believed people perceive me to be better if I wore brands that say, “I’ve made it.” The truth of it all is that I strived, forced, and pushed. I put myself in situations that didn’t resonate with me, playing the game of inauthenticity. A role driven by external cues. It became mentally draining, and exhausting. It literally made me sick!
#Journal Prompt
Is your busyness masking performance anxiety?
What if the real truth isn’t doing more—but being here, now?
Start small. Start with one day. Become the observer.
Where is performance overriding presence?
How does that feel in your body… your spirit?
Let your awareness create new perspectives, and new ways of living.
✨ Here’s How You’ll know this is Right for You
They say necessity is the mother of invention. I’m a true believer because when I was going through my tsunami I sat on couches, spent money on coaches and guru’s and honestly nothing worked. No blame. I learned that you have to be your own savior. So for the next seven years I went put together practices, and processes to figure out my truth; my true self. The unique blueprint within me, which I know teach others through Spiritual Personality Typing℠ . I founded this modern-day, self-identity tool, that helps individuals understand the soul’s role in personality typing. It’s led by your spirit mind intended which expresses itself through the logical/material mind helping you take divinely inspired actions. It offers great clarity and direction in helping you recognize your authentic self, find your power and voice; the keys to unlocking a true self business and lifestyle,
I’m on a mission to introduce this new personality paradigm that offers solutions for meaningful personal growth, moving beyond consumption, external cues, and competition.
Do you want to continue looking externally for answers making choices on what others tell you you should be? A few more questions to ponder:
- You desirer greater clarity in your business? Does your brand feel bland, vanilla and not true to you?
- Do you want to build a life based on your true desires or are you stuck building someone else’s?
- Do you want to make choices based on your truth, or are you doing a Nina and letting your childhood or some other person influence you?
- You’re ready to recognize the Divine spark within, and embrace your voice, and stand strong, true in your convictions?
- You want to bring your gifts forward in servitude for Mother Earth, and humanity, and your unique self?
🙏 Are You Wanting More Meaning And Purpose?
What I know for sure is accepting my Divine personality; the core of who I am has changed me. I don’t compare myself to others. I don’t believe I should be doing this or that at this stage in life. Nor do I expect someone else to make me happy.
I’m OK with being Nina. I love being with myself, and I’ve long since left the continual busyness behind. Nina Zapala.
Truth to told, your most important relationship is the on you have with yourself. Your highest love is the love of self. And yes, of course, I’m still working on it all and will be in the next life, the next life… well, you get the idea.
I know we are all born with a distinct personality that works in tandem to support our soul’s mission – everyone’s soul mission matters. We each have a Divine fragment within, coded with a unique life purpose, a blueprint if you will. We need each other, and I believe no one should do this alone. I had an encouraging and supportive tribe. Without them, I don’t know where I’d be. I want this for you! Join my community, a group of souls who desire to live a wonderful life.
Soul-led leadership begins with presence. Nina Zapala
🕊️ It’s Always My Intention
It’s always my intention to help you realize the physical and spiritual aspects of yourself. To inspire you to show up in the world better than you were the day before. Every day is a gift. You’re a gift, and you offers gifts with mighty potential. It’s why the Universe assigned you a distinct personality type and embellished your soul with a brilliant DNA blueprint.
You’re here to remember and share your beautiful self with the world. We are all different. After my tsunami and years of reflection and learning, I now know that spirituality doesn’t come in a pre-labeled box – it’s soul-level inspired. It comes from your higher self. Many don’t realize that your soul relies on your personality. As soul purpose needs your unique traits to accomplish it’s earthly mission. Personality also influences your business (brand) travel, lifestyle, romantic partner, your personal style and much more.
I was given a gift, learned through my 7-year tsunami – the gift of personality typing with a spiritual understanding, and I’m here to share it with you. Get in touch if you’re interested in a bespoke 1:1 clarity sessions.just It might be just what you need to stop surviving and start creating the life of your dreams!
Working with Nina helped me remove the blind spots that were holding me back”, Judith Wilms, TedX, Author. A bespoke clarity session maybe just what you need to stop living your life and instead create the life of your dreams!
📚Grab My Book: Unpack Your Personality: Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide
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For me, travel has become a powerful tool on my self-discovery journey, regardless if I’m exploring distant lands or my own backyard. Ready to embark on this journey? Grab your copy here.
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✨Meet Nina Zapala
Author. Mystic. Founder of Spiritual Personality Typing.
Nina Zapala offers a soul-led, revelatory approach to personality typing—one that speaks to the spiritually dry, the identity-weary, and the women who ache for something deeper. Her work is a sacred bridge between the outer persona and the true self. This is not a fix or a formula. It’s a mystical remembering.
Spiritual Personality Typing℠ is a new-thought theory for these evolving times—guiding women to rediscover who they truly are and how they’re meant to serve. It’s about turning wounds into wisdom, confusion into clarity, and personality into a sacred guide.
This isn’t just insight.
It’s soul emergence
Updated 5.2025
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